Day 22: Vulnerability

Paper Tiger & Impressing God

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Yesterday we talked about not worrying about our reputation with others.

It turns out that acting like we have it all together doesn't attract friendship anyway.  Those conversations of reassuring people that I wasn't sinning, that my behavior was good, was the opposite of being vulnerable.

Being vulnerable is where real relationships are formed.

A few years ago, I read The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown, and it wrecked me.  Why didn't I know all of these things in my teen years?  In my twenties?

Listen to what Brene says.

Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.

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Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.

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We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.
— Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

When we are not honest about our struggles, we are being unkind to our fellow Christians.  When we pretend we have it all together, parenting, relationships, good behavior, and good works, we are being dishonest about our life.  This is actually a disservice to yourself as much as it is a disservice to your friends and church members.  Perfectionism pushes others away, but vulnerability draws them in.

Don’t lie to one another. You’re done with that old life. It’s like a filthy set of ill-fitting clothes you’ve stripped off and put in the fire. Now you’re dressed in a new wardrobe. Every item of your new way of life is custom-made by the Creator, with his label on it. All the old fashions are now obsolete. Words like Jewish and non-Jewish, religious and irreligious, insider and outsider, uncivilized and uncouth, slave and free, mean nothing. From now on everyone is defined by Christ, everyone is included in Christ.

So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.
— Colossians 3:9-14 The Message

Wearing love is impossible to accomplish if you keep people at arms-length away, only allowing them to see the pieces of your life that are pretty and clean.

Being vulnerable shows kindness and love, and it glorifies Christ.  Our testimony is only shared when we are not the hero.  Don't be afraid to honestly share how Christ is working in your life, in your past and your present.

 

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